I’m not sure if the best coaches are the ones who everything came easily to, or maybe the better ones are those who had to struggle a bit and figure some things out. There are examples from both categories, so relying on the anecdotal won’t deliver the definitive on that question.
Coaches are important; that I do believe. They can identify some minor flaw, and get you to focus on positive assets while dialing down your liabilities. I’m sure we can all name essential coaches and mentors who helped us along toward success at key times in our lives.
Sometimes our lives simply get choked full of weeds and debris, and we need someone objective (bringing necessary “distance and space”) to help us unclutter, refocus, and even breathe deeply and regularly. Sort of like what Mainers and others do coming out of winter, when we rake up the yard, and clear out the detritus from winter, tidying up our flower gardens.
I was on the radio this morning, on The Breakfast Club, talking about publishing your own book with local writer, Linda Andrews, a coaching client of mine. Linda did an awesome job, talking about her amazing new book, Please Bring Soup To Comfort Me While I Grieve.
Sometimes a coach can make all the difference for us.
Oh, and I don’t want to forget to wish my fellow New Englanders a Happy Patriots’ Day. Miss Mary’s in Boston volunteering at the Boston Marathon and the Red Sox are holding up their end of the tradition playing morning baseball.
I enjoyed the interview very much! You’ve been a great coach to me at various times in my life and I appreciate what you bring to the table in terms of perspective, insight, and “distance.” Sometimes, it really just does need someone a bit removed to see through the weeds. Nice job!
I’m reminded of what Bill Belichick says about coaching: It’s a player’s game. Coaches can help, or they can get in the way, but the game belongs to the player, not the coach.
So for both Linda and the flowers, you are their helper, but it’s their own time to bloom.