I’ve been married to the same woman for 31 going on 32 years. Long-term relationships don’t just happen—they require constant vigilance.
For the past six months, I’ve detected relationship drift. A set of patterns were developing and I realized it was time for some honest talk. An article about marriage caught my eye. I wanted to discuss it with the one who has been my best friend for the past three decades.
Of course, honesty takes time—you can’t have a conversation while checking your Facebook page on your iPhone or Droid. We blocked some time on a Sunday night and had a heart-to-heart discussion. This was a positive first step of several we’ve made over the past few weeks.
I’m not going to render judgment on others. I will say that for whatever reason, too many people cut bait, rather than fish, when it comes to the interpersonal.
Apparently Fox News is out there scouring the U.S. for sons and fathers with differing political views, encouraging a parent to go on their network and slam their child. I can’t imagine ever doing that in relation to my son, Mark; I’m pleased that the exercise failed for Fox.
I say “failed,” because I think the host, Andrea Tantaro, was expecting the dad, Gary Lyngar, to launch on his son. Instead, he was measured, articulate, and he didn’t throw Edwin under the bus, although I think he got a few things wrong, but no biggie.
Edwin writes in his article for Salon that “In America we’ve stopped hearing each other in the streets, restaurants, churches and, in my case, in my own home, talking with my father. It is tragic, but it’s not all our fault. Fox News makes a living dividing people, offering the seductive lie of certainty to some people who just want to be reassured.”
Once again, the political class is trying to gin up interest in war in Ukraine. Sadly, our empire is spent and another foreign conflict might finish us for good.
As I shared in an email with someone I’m close to, “we’ve got 50 years of work to do on ourselves—of course, you know that’s not going to happen. It’s actually easier to blow shit up than to learn to talk to neighbors or family members.”
And so it goes.